LEADING IN LOVE: What Leaving Taught Me About Alignment
I never expected to be here—writing about love, leadership, and the quiet revolutions that start inside ourselves.
Over the last few years, my life has changed in profound ways. Some of those changes were external—moving house, shifting relationships, ending a marriage—but the real transformation has been internal. This is a story not about loss, but about coming home. To myself.
The Surprising Return of Energy
I remember standing in the middle of a house I’d called home for years, surrounded by boxes and exhaustion. I felt completely depleted. The kind of tired that doesn’t feel like it can be solved with sleep. I wasn’t sure how I’d get through the move—how I’d physically pack up and walk out.
But when I did, something happened.
I felt a rush of energy. A lightness. A knowing.
It reminded me of something I’d forgotten: that our energy is often blocked not by how much we’re doing, but by how far we are from our truth. And that alignment doesn’t always take years to return—it can happen in a moment, when we let go of what no longer fits.
Making Space, Literally and Figuratively
One of the most radical shifts in my life has been creating a space that is mine. For years, I didn’t have a room of my own. During the pandemic, I was working and showing up live on Instagram—but from my child’s bedroom, trying to create from a space that didn’t feel like mine at all.
I remember how difficult this was. The background chaos. But more than anything, I remember how numb I felt—how focused I was on keeping everything going for everyone else that I never stopped to ask what I needed.
Now, I have my own space. My own sacred place. My own rituals. And it has become a physical symbol of the inner shift—of claiming space in my own life, for my creativity, my rest, my joy, my voice.
The Leadership My Children Taught Me
The feedback that has meant the most to me lately has come from my children. They’ve told me I look lighter. Glowy. Like I’m fully myself.
What they’re noticing is not just happiness. It’s embodiment.
They’re seeing what it looks like when a woman returns to her own centre.
And that’s a powerful thing. Not just for me, but for them. Because I’m not just parenting—I’m modelling. I’m showing them what it looks like to set boundaries with love, to choose alignment over approval, to trust your path even when it’s uncertain.
I know many of us stay in roles or dynamics because of our children. But I want to gently offer this: your children are watching either way. What if the most powerful thing we can show them is how to be true to ourselves?
Loyalty Rewritten
For a long time, I thought I was being loyal by staying quiet, by holding things together, by keeping the image of how things were ‘meant’ to look. I come from a family where divorce was part of the story, and I swore I wouldn’t repeat it. I told myself I’d be the one to get it ‘right’.
But I’ve since learned that loyalty that costs you your truth is not really loyalty—it’s self-abandonment.
So I began asking a different question: What would it mean to be loyal to myself?
To my vision.
To my energy.
To the part of me that had been quietly waiting to be heard.
And in doing so, I realised that leading in love doesn’t always look like staying. Sometimes, it looks like choosing yourself without blame or shame. Sometimes, it looks like being brave enough to begin again.
Some Questions I’m Sitting With
If you’re in a season of reevaluation or softening into something new, here are some journal prompts that have helped me along the way. Use them gently. There’s no rush, and no ‘right’ answer—just your own:
Where am I keeping things “together” at the cost of my own wholeness?
What would it feel like to have more space—for my voice, my rest, my joy?
Who am I being loyal to—and what might change if I turned that loyalty inward?
What kind of model do I want to be—for my children, for my friends, for myself?
What does leading in love mean to me, right now?
This post isn’t a dramatic announcement or a declaration.
It’s simply a moment of truth.
To say: I’ve changed.
I’m still changing.
And I’m leading from that place.
Thank you for being here.
Thank you for witnessing.
With love and integrity,
Brita